my love, my stalker
Dating someone who was essentially, well, your stalker is kind of a strange experience.
Before you start lecturing, understand that when this has happened to me, I didn’t know the person (maybe persons, but that’s another blog) in question was stalking me. I just thought that he had a crush.
I really had no idea. Not until we went out and he started talking in great detail about my life, things that I had done, people I had known, whatever, he just knew far too much about me and my daily patterns. Clue #1.
In addition, he quickly started in about “our” future plans. You know. Talking in April about a trip to Hawaii at Christmas. Clue #2. I am all about the instant connection. Don’t get me wrong. But talking about plans that are months and months into the future that may or may not happen early on in the relationship always makes me a little… skittish.
Clue #3. He is far, far too willing to accept all of my quirks. I know I can be a pain in the ass. So being around someone who just accepts it all as part of me, and never, ever gets ruffled at my sometimes outlandish behavior, seems a little phony. I can be annoying. Just like you can be annoying. I’m not going to stomp out of the room because you say I’m getting on your nerves. Or at least, I would probably come back. Eventually.
Clue #4: He is always available, whenever I need him to be around. I’m sorry. But this is an obvious clue that either you have no friends or that you’re completely willing to throw them over when a new “potential” enters your life. Either way. I don’t like it.
Clue #5. He talks too much about my blog. It’s a darn good blog. But truth be told, it isn’t necessarily representative of my life right now. Sometimes it is, vis a vis my writing about the move to Portland. But sometimes, I had a moment, and then I never got around to writing about that moment until a year later. So it really no longer applies and talking about it ad infinitum is kinda pointless. It doesn’t help to hear months after the fact how I should have handled the situation.
Persistence is a really good way to get a woman to go out with you.
Before you start lecturing, understand that when this has happened to me, I didn’t know the person (maybe persons, but that’s another blog) in question was stalking me. I just thought that he had a crush.
I really had no idea. Not until we went out and he started talking in great detail about my life, things that I had done, people I had known, whatever, he just knew far too much about me and my daily patterns. Clue #1.
In addition, he quickly started in about “our” future plans. You know. Talking in April about a trip to Hawaii at Christmas. Clue #2. I am all about the instant connection. Don’t get me wrong. But talking about plans that are months and months into the future that may or may not happen early on in the relationship always makes me a little… skittish.
Clue #3. He is far, far too willing to accept all of my quirks. I know I can be a pain in the ass. So being around someone who just accepts it all as part of me, and never, ever gets ruffled at my sometimes outlandish behavior, seems a little phony. I can be annoying. Just like you can be annoying. I’m not going to stomp out of the room because you say I’m getting on your nerves. Or at least, I would probably come back. Eventually.
Clue #4: He is always available, whenever I need him to be around. I’m sorry. But this is an obvious clue that either you have no friends or that you’re completely willing to throw them over when a new “potential” enters your life. Either way. I don’t like it.
Clue #5. He talks too much about my blog. It’s a darn good blog. But truth be told, it isn’t necessarily representative of my life right now. Sometimes it is, vis a vis my writing about the move to Portland. But sometimes, I had a moment, and then I never got around to writing about that moment until a year later. So it really no longer applies and talking about it ad infinitum is kinda pointless. It doesn’t help to hear months after the fact how I should have handled the situation.
Persistence is a really good way to get a woman to go out with you.
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